When the Timing is Right

It is amazing how big life transitions can change a person’s perspective.  Often a person is faced with fear, sadness, and anxiety when going through a big change.  It can take a person days, months, and even years to get past all of the feelings of change.  It is important to take time for yourself and overcome the changes in life.  My biggest life change was going through my divorce.  I certainly had a multitude of fear and anxiety.  However, the biggest feeling that I was faced with was feeling like I had no self-worth.  With lots of work the first month after my separation, I was able to overcome that feeling.  I did a lot of writing during that first month in order to work through the whys of all of that I was going through.  I quickly realized that I am worthy of far more than I had been given in my marriage as far as a relationship goes.  I had poured so much heart into my marriage that I had quickly forgotten to take care of myself.  During that time of processing, I learned that I am a person of value, to always stand by my beliefs in life, never to change for someone, and to always give your all to all things in life.  Most importantly, I remembered that I am worthy.

In overcoming those challenges and feelings, I began thinking about my future.  I realized that taking time for me was one of the most important things that I could do for myself and for my children.  I was able to get back to the gym, start running again, focus more on God’s word, spend quality time with my kids, and the list could go on.  I found peace and happiness.  It has been the most amazing feeling to be 100% happy in life.  I often have people ask me, “So, when do you think you will start dating?”  Honestly, the thought hasn’t really crossed my mind about dating.  I prefer to answer that question with, “When the timing is right.”  I will trust and listen to Him.  God tells us that there is a time and season for everything.  I prefer to be happy with my family, and if God decides that the timing is right, then I will trust in Him. It’s important for women to remember that you should not just rush into anything. 

When that time does come, I will remember my worth.  I have a large list of “musts” for any guy that I choose to date.  If he doesn’t meet the majority of those things that I have listed, then I won’t waste my time.  I find the dating world rather odd.  There’s all of these dating apps out there, and WOW!  I had a random night that I was giggling with my friends after we signed me up for a Tinder account.  I had no clue really what it was.  Once I had the account created, I had to pick my mouth up off of the floor.  I couldn’t believe some of the things that these men put on their profiles.  And ladies, swipe left, swipe right, what does all of that mean!?  I was quick to get rid of that app.  However, we got lots of fun laughs reading those profiles.  I giggle often about dating apps.  What’s the purpose in those things, and ladies, don’t blindly go out with someone you met on a dating app.  It isn’t safe!  Dating should be a purposeful adventure. 

Okay y’all.  I’ve kind of rambled through this post.  My purpose is to just use this post as a reminder that God’s timing is important in life.  Don’t try to rush dating after divorce.  Use the time to focus on yourself.  It’s the time to reshape who you are as a person AND stay off of the dating apps.  They are seriously ridiculous!  Unless you are looking for a good laugh by reading the profiles.  Now that’s some funny stuff!  Remember, when the time is right, God will tell you.  Do things on His terms, and not your own.

Much Love,

Jessica